Law Of Attraction

The feeling of worry is an emotional indicator that if you keep beating this drum, you are using THAT as your excuse to slow down this thing that you want.

Then many people would say, “but it’s LOGICAL that I am worried about this.”

And we say, “Worry may seem logical, but it NEVER is.  Try to talk yourself down from the worry.  Even though you have legitamate things to worry about, you can TRAIN yourself to less worry and less worry and less worry, and find relief, relief, relief.”

Shift the way you feel and watch what happens.  If you can rid yourself of worry, you will rid yourself of things to worry about.  It is really that simple.

No matter how intensely intertwined you find yourself with another person, your relationship is affected many times more by the thoughts that are moving around in your own mind than by the other person who is moving around in your house or in your life experience. That is why it is so interesting to us to see people working so hard at controlling one another while working very little on controlling their own thoughts and perceptions — especially since they have no real control over another and they do have complete control of their own thoughts and perceptions.

People often believe that they would feel so much better if their mate would just change in this way or that way, but that truly is a backward approach to things. When you say, “I’ll feel better if you will make this change in your behavior or personality”, what you are actually saying is, “My happiness is dependent upon your willingness and ability to modify your behavior; therefore I am powerless.” The reason why so many people are so hard on those they live or interact with is because everyone inherently wants to be happy, but they also believe that their happiness is dependent upon things over which they have no control.

In the beginning of most new relationships, things go along rather well, since both of you are predominantly looking for positive aspects of the other. And, in the beginning, both of you are unnaturally forcing yourself to work harder at pleasing the other. But when you behave from the vantage point of trying to please another rather than from the point of personal alignment, you set yourself up for a great moment of trouble, for it is not possible to hold someone else’s desires as the center of your attention, because as a creator, you simply are not wired that way.

By trying to please others, you encourage the distorted idea that someone else is responsible for their happiness, which, in the long run, disempowers them and makes them unhappy. We could accurately say that the harder you try to make others happy, the more unhappy they become because they are dependent on behavior outside of themselves over which they have no control rather than being in alignment within themselves, over which they have complete control.

So, by holding your mate as your object of attention — telling yourself how much you love her and how important it is to you that she is happy — and then by trying to control her happiness through your actions, it is no wonder that you feel smothered, because this impossible task requires an enormous amount of your time and attention.

Also, in most cases, the more you try to control circumstances in order to enhance the experience of others, the more dependent they become on your behavior, and in time, the more demanding they become. You are innately such independent Beings that the more dependent you become, the unhappier you become. Interesting, is it not, that your intentions were to make another happy, but instead, you have encouraged less happiness?

Your only chance of influencing another to happiness is for you to truly be happy. And the only way for you to truly be happy is to achieve the state of vibrational alignment between you and You.

What proportion of my day am I in vibrational harmony…

The things that we would be asking ourselves is, “What proportion of my day am I in vibrational harmony with my desires, which means, how much of my day am I happy, glad, eager, fulfilled, satisfied, complimentary?

And what percentage of my day am I ornery, irritated, frustrated, or blaming?” And you don’t have to do 100%, you don’t have to do 90%, you don’t have to do 80%.

If you could even get around 55% feeling better, than not feeling so good - you would have significant movement in what begins to happen in your experience.

Make a decision of what you want, give your attention there, find the feeling place of it — and you’re there instantly. There is no reason for you to suffer or struggle your way to or through anything.  

We wish every moment of your experience to be joyful like it is for us. We want you to look around your world and not worry, but to revel in its beauty. We want you to look around your own life and not worry, but to revel, in its magnificence. We want you to look at your own body and not nitpick about a wrinkle or an extra pound, or 20 or 30 or 40.

We want you to look at yourself and adore yourself. If you will make this small effort to appreciate you and what is yours NOW, you will soften, so quickly, any resistance that has been keeping you apart from the things you want. It is the magic formula that you’ve been looking for. It is the key to your blending. It is the key to your allowing. It is the key to you getting what you want. It is the key to your abundance, your clarity, and to your
stamina. It is the key to your energy. It is the key to your vitality. It is the key to your flexibility. It is the key to your wellness. It is the key to all things that feel good to you.

Make some small effort, every chance you get, at looking at where you stand NOW and doing your best to soothe and appreciate you NOW, to soothe and appreciate your NOW.